Monday, September 08, 2008

روعة المشاعر في إسعاد الآخرين

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته ،،،


قصة واقعية ........ منقولة
في احد المستشفيات كان هناك مريضان عجوزين في غرفة واحدة ،

وكلاهما معه مرض عضال أحدهما كان مسموحاً له بالجلوس في سريره لمدة ساعة واحدة يومياً بعد العصر ،

ولحسن حظه فقد كان سريره بجانب النافذة الوحيدة في الغرفة ، أما الآخر فكان عليه ان يبقى مستلقياً على ظهره طوال الوقت .


كان المريضان يقضيان وقتهما في الكلام ، دون ان يرى احدهما الاخر ، لأن كلاً منهما كان مستلقياً على ظهره ناظراً الى السقف .

تحدثا عن اهليهما ، وعن بيتيهما ، وعن حياتهما ، وعن كل شئ .

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وفي كل يوم بعد العصر كان الاول يجلس في سريره حسب أوامر الطبيب وينظر في النافذة ، ويصف لصاحبه العالم الخارجي .


وكان الآخر ينتظر هذة الساعة كما ينتظرها الأول ، لأنها تجعل حياته مفعمة بالحيوية وهو يستمع لوصف صاحبه للحياة في الخارج .


ففي الحديقة كان هناك بحيرة كبيرة يسبح فيها البط .

والأولاد صنعوا زوراق من مواد مختلفة وأخذوا يلعبون فيها داخل الماء .

وهنال رجل يؤجر المراكب الصغيرة للناس يبحرون بها قي البحيرة .

والنساء قد ادخلت كل منهن ذراعها في ذراع زوجها ، والجميع يتمشى حول حافة البحيرة .

وهناك آخرون جلسوا في ظلال الاشجار او بجانب الزهور ذات الألوان الجذابة .

ومنظر السماء كان بديعاً يسر الناظرين .

وفيما يقوم الأول بعملية الوصف هذة ينصت الآخر في ذهول لهذا الوصف الدقيق الرائع .

ثم يغمض عينيه ويبدا في تصور ذلك المنظر البديع خارج المستشفى .

وفي احد الأيام وصف له عرضاً عسكرياً .

ورغم أنه لم يسمع عزف الفرقة الموسيقية الا انه يراها بعيني عقله من خلال وصف صاحبه لها .

ومرت الأيام والأسابيع وكل منهما سعيد بصاحبه .

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وفي احد الأيام جاءت الممرضة صباحاً لخدمتهما كعادتها ، فوجدت المريض الذي بجانب النافذة قد قضى نحبه خلال الليل .

ولم يعلم الآخر بوفاته الا من خلال حديث الممرضة عبر الهاتف وهي تطلب المساعدة لإخراجه من الغرفة .

فحزن صاحبه اشد الحزن .

وعندما وجد الفرصة مناسبة طلب من الممرضة ان تنقل سريره الى جانب النافذة .

ولما لم يكن هناك مانع فقد أجابت طلبه .

ولما حانت ساعة بعد العصر وتذكر الحديث الشيق الذي كان يتحفه به صاحبه انتحب لفقده .

ولكنه قرر ان يحاول الجلوس ليعوض ما فاته في هذة الساعة .

وتحامل على نفسه وهو يتألم ، ورفع راسه رويداً رويداً مستعيناً بذراعيه ، ثم اتكأ على احد مرفقيه وأدار وجهه ببطء شديد تجاه النافذة لينظر العالم الخارجي .

وهنا كانت المفاجأه !! لم يرى أمامه الا جدار اصم من جدران المستشفى ، فقد كانت النافذة على ساحة داخلية .

نادى الممرضة وسألها أن كانت هذة هي النافذة التي كان صاحبه ينظر من خلالها ، فأجابت أنها هي !!!

فالغرفة ليس فيها سوى نافذة واحدة .

ثم سألته عن سبب تعجبه ، فقص عليها ماكان يرى صاحبه عبر النافذة وما كان يصفه له .

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كان تعجب الممرضة اكبر ، إذ قالت له : ولكن المتوفى كان أعمى ، ولم يكن يرى حتى هذا الجدار الأصم !!!!!!!!! .

ولعله أراد أن يجعل حياتك سعيدة حتى لاتصاب باليأس فتتمنى الموت .

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الست تسعد إذا جعلت الآخرين سعداء ؟
إذا جعلت الناس سعداء فستتضاعف سعادتك ، ولكن إذا وزعت الأسى عليهم فسيزداد حزنك .

فهل ستجعلهم يشعرون بالسعادة أم غير ذلك .

وليكن شعارنا جميعاً وصية الله تعالى التي وردت في القرآن الكريم :

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وقولوا للناس حسنا " .

Monday, August 18, 2008

كتبتك ؟

نسيت ملامحه ... أو ربما تناستها .. لم يمر سوى شهرين أو أكثر على آخر مرة التقيا ..
في لحظات .. كانت الأماكن و الشوارع و الأشخاص و زوج الجرابات و حتى الضحكات تذكرها به ..
ثم اختلطت عليها العناوين و الأسماء ... لتقف حائرة و تتساءل ماذا ستسميه ؟!
أتسميه أملا غير مكتمل ... أم شريكا في جريمة سرقة السعادة ؟ أم شخصا كريما أعطاها المفتاح لصندوق ليس به قفل ؟!
صديقي علاء ... ... لطالما سميت أبطال قصصي الوهميين باسمك حتى قبل أن أعرفك و ذلك لعدم ارتباط ذلك الاسم قبلا بأشخاص أراهم و أعرفهم فيتجرد الاسم عن الواقع و يبقى خياليا كبطله .... يا من خرجت من وراء الشاشة و الأزرار لتصبح واقعا ملموسا تشغل حيزا .. و لم تعد مجرد كلمات مطبوعة على الشاشة .. ولكن وجها و عينين عسليتين حزينتين رغم فرحهما الظاهر ..


أكتبك وقد تأخر قلمي ، و امتلأت أوراقي بعبارات غير مكتملة .. فها هو قلمي يخذ لني في كل مرة أحاول أن أصفك بكلمات .. أو حتى أن أجمع حروف اسمك ... أجمعها
كقطرات مطر سقطت بإناء زجاجي شفاف ... أضعه عند نافذتي لأراك كل يوم .. أخشى عليك من حرارة الشمس فأغطيك عن العيون ... و حالما أجد القطرات يوما مختفية ... اختفت كأنها لم تكن موجودة يوما .. فتصبح صباحاتي كئيبة .. و مساءاتي غافية في وقت مبكر من الليل على وسادتي .. و أبرد مما أملك من معاطف ...

لكني و آنيتي نعلم أنك لم تختف تماما ..

فمصير قطرات المطر أن تصعد بالأفق .. تتلألأ ... تنصهر بالغيوم .. ثم تمطر .. أجل تمطر !

Thursday, December 20, 2007

رحلة سفر

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
فى يوم من الايام كان هناك رجلا مسافرا فى رحلة مع زوجته واولاده
وفى الطريق قابل شخصا واقفا فى الطريق فسأله

من أنت"؟
قال
أنا المال
فسأل الرجل زوجته واولاده
هل ندعه يركب معنا ؟
فقالوا جميعا
نعم بالطبع فبالمال يمكننا ان نفعل اى شىء
وان نمتلك اى شىء نريده
فركب معهم المال
وسارت السيارة حتى قابل شخصا آخر
فسأله الاب : من أنت؟
فقال
انا
السلطة والمنصب
فسأل الاب زوجته واولاده
هل ندعه يركب معنا ؟
فأجابوا جميعا بصوت واحد
نعم بالطبع فبالسلطة والمنصب نستطيع ان نفعل اى شىء
وان نمتلك اى شىء نريده
فركب معهم السلطة والمنصب
وسارت السيارة تكمل رحلتها
وهكذا قابل اشخاص كثيرين بكل شهوات وملذات ومتع الدنيا
حتى قابلوا شخصا
فسأله الاب
من انت ؟
قال
انا
الدين
فقال الاب والزوجة والاولاد فى صوت واحد
ليس هذا وقته
نحن نريد الدنيا ومتاعها
والدين سيحرمنا منها وسيقيدنا
و سنتعب فى الالتزام بتعاليمه
و حلال وحرام وصلاة وحجاب وصيام
و و و وسيشق ذلك علينا
ولكن من الممكن ان نرجع اليك بعد ان نستمتع بالدنيا وما فيها
فتركوه وسارت السيارة تكمل رحلتها
وفجأة وجدوا على الطريق
نقطة تفتيش
وكلمة قف
ووجدوا رجلا يشير للأب ان ينزل ويترك السيارة
فقال الرجل للأب
انتهت الرحلة بالنسبة لك
وعليك ان تنزل وتذهب معى
فوجم الاب فى ذهول ولم ينطق
فقال له الرجل
أنا افتش عن الدين......هل معك الدين؟
فقال الاب
لا
لقد تركته على بعد مسافة قليلة
فدعنى أرجع وآتى به
فقال له الرجل
انك لن تستطيع فعل هذا فالرحلة انتهت والرجوع مستحيل
فقال الاب
و لكننى معى فى السيارة المال والسلطة والمنصب والزوجة
والاولاد
و..و..و..و
فقال له الرجل
انهم لن يغنوا عنك من الله شيئا
وستترك كل هذا
وما كان لينفعك الا الدين الذى تركته فى الطريق
فسأله الاب
من انت ؟
قال الرجل
انا
الموت
الذى كنت غافل عنه ولم تعمل حسابه
ونظر الاب للسيارة
فوجد زوجته تقود السيارة بدلا منه
وبدأت السيارة تتحرك لتكمل رحلتها وفيها الاولاد والمال والسلطة
ولم ينزل معه أحد
قال تعالى
قل ان كان آبآؤكم و أبنآؤكم و اخوانكم و أزواجكم و عشيرتكم وأموال اقترفتموها وتجارة تخشون كسادها و مساكن ترضونها أحب اليكم من الله ورسوله و جهاد فى سبيله فتربصوا حتى يأتى الله بأمره والله لايهدى القوم الفاسقين
وقال الله تعالى
كل نفس ذآئقة الموت وانما توفون أجوركم يوم القيامة فمن زحزح عن النار وأدخل الجنة فقد فاز وما الحياة الدنيا الا متاع الغرور
والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله و بركاته
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Thursday, September 06, 2007

The Beauty and the Geek..!!


Why Geeks and Nerds Are Worth It...


This is a quoted article; I had to remove some offensive bullets, for the original article follow the link under:
In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop? The following are reasons why I think my fellow females should pay more attention to the quiet geeks and nerds, and less attention to the flashy boys.

1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are... plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.

2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.

3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such... but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.

4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.

5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?

6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.

7.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?

8.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.


9.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.

10.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce...

11.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps...

12.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine body!!!” Believe me.
Here you can find the original link: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/66795671.html

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

complications ...

hmmmmmmm, am really searching for a quot or something, for those who emphasize their skills and strengths to get what they want, like "The need defines the mean" or something, never mind i just brought up the subject, it was dark, a little late, but sure these kind of people stay at work for this time.

A friend of mine popped up on msn, hello here , hello their , how are you ... stuff like this and that ..what have you been doing so far , where are you, how is work, oh ... we really like to speak about work, we went on and on, talking about technical stuff, and improvements, well this is an endless dialog, i asked him, man its been so long since we chatted how did i come to your mind, he said, well , i need a faivour, and i know who calls the shoots, so am calling you.

it turned out that he is searching for a phone number in a stack of 300 Mega byte of call data records, coded in binary format that sums about 10,000 of files , well it is a long story that i don't have to tell, but i was really shocked how determined he was, and this guy is professinal in this matter, he even asked me for documents, and specs of how those binary coded files can be read, so he can make automated scripts to help him out.


well he thought his to-become wife called him to check on him, while they went last time on a fight which lasted 5 days without a simple phone call from each other, they loved each other 8 years, there where problems between the two familis which sorted out well finally, but now this stupid man, stands against his ego, and tries to test his to-become wife loyality by never speaking to her and letting her to make a step forward, thats side of the truth, while on the other hand, he is staying awake and so late reading 300 mega byte of call records just to find out if she still cares, if i should proceed in this ongoing war with her parents, if i should getover it and start recovering.

well he is crazy enough to do it!! and guess what...... am crazy enough to help him!!

Saturday, July 21, 2007

The Psychology of Social Computing: What Best Explains the Success of Facebook?


Tuesday, July 10, 2007; Posted: 4:46 AM - by John Kirriemuir

Facebook has been getting a lot of UK press of late, from consideration of how much it is worth, to privacy issues, universities getting annoyed at students using it to criticize staff, being censored by organizations frightened of it, and the musings of BBC journalists about whether people are too “old” to Facebook.

What makes Facebook such an attraction? Some theories…

1: Collecting

It's like Top Trumps and Pokemon and stamp collecting, in that it taps into the basic psyche of collecting things. As the collection of "Friends" grows, so it is like having a larger stamp collection, with an increasing feeling of achievement.

"My stamp collection contains 10 stamps" is nothing. "My stamp collection contains 2,000 stamps" perhaps gives a feeling of achievement, a tangible result and evidence of work and persistence.

To give your collection a bit more personalization, you can optionally agree with your friends how you met and add on other bits of information, write on their profile wall, and so on. So you aren't just remembering and "collecting" friends, but collecting relationships between people. (That sounds a bit woolly – just play with Facebook and it'll make more sense).

2: Not invited to the party

Facebook also digs away at the insecurities in people. "I have one friend" probably makes some people feel a bit insecure and Billy no-mates. In the deeply insecure, this may be amplified by the lie-awake-at-night worry that your peers can see your profile on Facebook, and while they may have 50, 100, 200 friends they will mockingly see that you have a pathetically small number, confirming your worst fears about the low opinion they have probably held of you over all those years etc.

Yes, Facebook could cause a lot of angst to the paranoid amongst us ;-)


3: Twitching curtains


"Curiosity" – and its cousin "nosiness" – are basic cognitive attributes. Anyone who says they are never nosey or never curious as to what their neighbours or work colleagues are up to is probably fibbing. Having lived in several small communities, where gossip is an alternative currency, the general rule seems to be "most residents discuss most other residents". Though, in many ways, this is preferable to the anonymity of the city, where people often live next door to dead people for weeks or months at a time without realising.

Facebook is up-front about letting you keep an eye on what your friends are up to. There's a status box. You type in – if you want – what you are doing. There's another page where the most recent updated status of your friends are listed; here's a screenshot of a good example. Currently, of my peers, Dan is off to Paris, Tom has just completed a half-marathon in 2 hours 10 minutes, David in Lewis is bottling his home-made wine, and Jenny has finally bought a house. Utterly meaningless to you (unless you are my evil twin or stalker), but of interest to me. The same way that your friends are of no interest to me but of much interest to you.


4: People like us


It's a social network for what my cousin calls "the deadwood" – basically, everyone over 30. The demographics for new users registering show an accelerating rise in people from 35 onwards signing up (this slide from an interesting bundle of Facebook stats slides):


I'm 38. When I use Facebook I don't occasionally look at a person's profile and think, with total dismay, "I'm old enough to be your father." That's happened to me in MySpace. And that's partially why I've given up on Bebo, as it's not far off the point of thinking "I'm old enough to be your grandfather." How depressing would that be?

No, there is a generational thing there, and I'm more comfortable with peers who are very roughly within my age range. The birthday/age feature on Facebook tells me the youngest friend I have is 25 (four of them) and the oldest is 74. If you are too young to remember life under Thatcher – and worryingly, this year's University intake will contain that generation – then we probably aren't going to be discussing politics anyway. And I'm not going to turn into one of the dull people who turn up at every village meeting and start their sentences with "In my day…". No, 25 to 74 is fine.


5: Autobiography


Once you've linked up with a few people, then Facebook creates a "Social Timeline." This shows when and who and why you ended up meeting with Facebook people. As an aide memoire, this has been unexpectedly interesting, showing that I did a heck of a lot of networking (that led to people I'm still in touch with) at certain jobs, but not at others. It also shows that for the couple of years after I went self-employed, I did hardly any networking as I was busy being a part-time tourist. (That's what happens when you live between two airports which host several budget airlines, and you don't have to book time off work).

6: Expansion is quick, easy and free

I like Wordpress, as a blogging and website development tool, as plug-ins are being created all the time to add functionality. A bit of FTPing, and a variable amount of fiddling, and often – though not always – another dimension has been added to a website or blog.

However, Facebook is simpler.

Adding new functionality is done within Facebook – no FTPing, or messing about with files or directories. It takes literally seconds, which means that an application of interest can be very quickly experimented with. Several times I've installed, played with, and uninstalled applications in under 2 minutes. Therefore, it appeals to people who like to tinker and experiment, but don't have the time, inclination, knowledge, attention span or geekiness to mess about with anything technical.

So what of rival services? Will Facebook knock 'em out of the market place? One in particular is possibly doomed in the long-term: Friends Reunited.